It’s up to you.Β 

Don’t blame others. Be your own PR. Be true to yourself. Take responsibility. Reflect OFTEN. Be adaptable. Have a plan. Be intentional. 

I’ve been shaped by MANY things, been Influenced and pressured into MANY things but ultimately I AM responsible. I MUST take charge. Those of us who are Christians or other monotheistic believers often find it hard saying I’M IN CHARGE we fear that it appears to be denouncing the role of God and implies we are somehow lacking reverence to the almighty by getting above our station. BUT. God is my father who is IN ME. He’s my friend, my teacher, my guard, my fortress, my defence, my comfort, my hope and like any father he hopes that what he has instilled in me will be enough that I can make my own decisions boldly and with clarity because it is he who orders my steps. He is ultimately all up in my business, all up in my heart, working it all out for my good cheering me on to be ALL what he created me to be. Not to keep looking back for that permission slip but just to get on with it already! 

Be bold. Own it. Step out. Put GOD into practice. You are entirely up to YOU. 

Happy Sunday … V 😘

We Mum Hard!

When hubby’s away…. πŸŽ’πŸπŸ₯˜πŸš˜πŸ“šπŸ“’πŸ•πŸ•–πŸ•šπŸ•šπŸ˜…πŸ˜²πŸ˜΄πŸ—£πŸ€·πŸΎβ€β™€οΈπŸ™‹πŸΎπŸƒπŸ½β€β™€οΈπŸ‘―πŸ‘©πŸ½β€βœˆοΈπŸ‘©πŸ½β€βš•οΈπŸ‘©πŸ½β€πŸ³. I’m wearing All the hats πŸ˜‚πŸ™πŸΎ. .


I gave up my work to be a full time/ stay at home mum/ house wife. We worked out that it didn’t make sense paying for childcare, because it would mean all my salary went on and it didn’t make sense. He earned more so I hung up my apron (florist 🌺) I speak to a lot of mums and whether we work or are based in the home we ‘MUM HARD’. There is no right or wrong. There is no better. I’ve had to give up many opportunities because my husband couldn’t hold the kids and it’s ok because we are a team. This is my season to raise these babies and his season to do what he gotta do. I hold the forte down while he builds it. I’m not a traditional girl but I guess I am. I have no point to prove, no feminist why should I stay at home story to tell. No, he’s better at career and I’m better at the 10,000 things a wife and mother do everyday (plus I still help him with work-it’s the family business-so all hands on deck!). 



This morning whether you are packing lunches or preparing a power point presentation (or both!) just own it. Don’t compare yourself to any other mum. I love my role I’m happy I can devote every minute to these babies but I’m also happy and dancing when dad gets home and I can pop out or just go to my room and have ‘a moment’ 
In these uncertain times for families it’s all about planning and working out what’s best. Forget the news reports, the playground chatter, the Facebook stories. Just do what’s best for your household. Your kids will always know you are the best mum in the world! 



Happy Monday! .. V 😘


Stop doubting yourself.
Stop making your moods dictate your day. 
Stop making excuses. 
Stop learning the hard way. 
Stop comparing yourself. 
Stop trying to be someone else. 
Stop trying to please everyone. 
Stop trying to fit in. 
Stop being scared. 
Stop wishing. 
Stop procrastinating. 
Stop letting opinions burst your bubble. 
Stop waiting for permission. 
Stop listening to negativity. 
Stop hiding. 
Stop sharing your plans with too many people. 

Stop giving up too soon. 
Stop allowing them to take advantage of you. 

Stop hosting pity parties. 
Stop crying over lost opportunities. 
Stop thinking the grass is greener. 
Stop being ungrateful. 
Stop forgetting God loves you. 
Stop self sabotage. 
Stop thinking you’re not good enough. 

Now GO!

He Alone

For he alone is worthy. 

Not your hubby. Not the postman. Not your current MCM. Not your boss. God. 

We spend a lot of time shining the egos of man though we recognise that the levels of their influence and power stretch only so far. As we network and connect with each other more than ever before let’s remember that God is the ONE. The mastermind behind the workings of the universe. The ONE who, without error can get the job done. 

 Matthew 7:7-8 β€œContinue to ask, and God will give to you. Continue to search, and you will find. Continue to knock, and the door will open for you. Yes, whoever continues to ask will receive. Whoever continues to look will find. And whoever continues to knock will have the door opened for them.

We need each other. I believe God places the right people in your life at the right time to help you and benefit your purpose but… let’s not forget we must seek Him first. Let Him be our MCM everyday, let him be our Lord and he will connect us correctly, directly and exponentially to all that was written into our destinies since the beginning of time.  
Happy Monday … V 😘


Not for people. How can your individuality, your beauty, your purpose, your experiences and your dreams be boxed. Don’t put me in a box because I’m female, black and loud. A stay at home home mum with bleached hair and a penchant for long ghetto nails. I’m a thinker a writer, I love sophisticated thrillers and maybe when the kids are a bit older I may pursue my desire to study psychology or start my journey to becoming a published author. When people look at you, you’d be surprised with the judgements they are making, but believe me they are making them. It may be your hair, your postcode, your accent but piece by piece they are trying to BOX YOU. Boxes keep things neatly in place, stopping them for moving about… just think about that for a minute. πŸ€”πŸ˜±. 

Well in my true rebellious fashion I say ‘no thanks to your boxes. The God I serve is BIG, CREATIVE, DYNAMIC, MESMERISING and TRUE. It’s not his will that we be boxed and held back unable to be ourselves on our truest form. Break out of the boxes you’ve unknowingly allowed to imprison you and be organic.. surprise them with your layers and and be what God called you to be.. duh, duh, duh!!!! YOOOUUUUUU! 😘😘😘😘😘